I, Elena Kotik, am a systemic family psychologist. Over 7 years of work, I listened to more than 6,000 stories and helped more than 100 couples restore warmth to their relationships. I work with hidden inner experiences, betrayals, cooling and conflicts in relationships. I know how childhood attachment and negative experiences affect emotions and actions towards partners. Loneliness, despite the fact that you are in a couple, a feeling of uselessness, uselessness and anxiety. The feeling that all actions are devalued and not accepted. All this can be changed.